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Afterword:



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"What occurred under my roof wouldn't leave me. It remained a
restless, stirring in my gut. I couldn't erase it or stand on the
street corners and bellow it out, so I re-lived my life in the
narrative. It was with non-judgmental support from a writing
group led by Ellen Bass that I revealed my nearly unbearable truth."

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The Big "C" Word:

     It used to be that no one would say the word cancer. It was always
referred to as the big "C" word. Then after a several years it got it's voice.
That's what I am waiting for...I have not given up on the voice for the big fight against sexual molestation and incest. Some day it will be intolerable like cancer. We will all fight the fight together.  So, put your boxing gloves on and join in this campaign.

    Talk about it at home with your children. Teach them manners, tell them how to dress, what good foods to eat, how to do well in school and how important their bodies are...and there are parts that are never to be touched by anyone else including mommy and daddy!

     And all survivors will thank you for being a good parent.
     And all survivors will thank you for sparing another child.
                     We can do this!

      Thank you...from the mother of a survivor.

To Hell and Back:

*******
The whole reason I even do a blog is to get your attention!
But I really don't have it yet.
1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are molested.
Whether it is one time or hundreds of times... there is trauma.
There are places NOW available to help the survivors.
And the mother needs to know she's not the only one.

How can you help?
I am asking you to buy my book to help others.
I wish I would have had something to read when I needed it.

The royalties from the E-book memoir
and the softcover go to the Survivor's Healing Center.
There is a copy in the SHC lending library and also at the Soquel
Porter Memorial Library in Soquel.

Buy a book. Read it. Pass it on.
 You know you know someone this will help!

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Stop the Silence Walk:

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You know when you go to a good movie and you're still thinking about it a few days later?
Well. That's how the "Walk to Stop the Silence" in Watsonville affected me.
I still remember the VOICES, SIGNS, numbers of people reaching out
to help other people and the children..


You can't even imagine how your voice helps a victim...
Do you know what to say if someone tells you first?

"I believe you."
It's not your fault."
I'm so sorry this happened to you."
I'm always here to talk with you."
"I love you."
Then report to the 24 hour crisis live line for help:
1-888-900-4232

I know...I just called it.

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          You and your child are already survivors. You'll make it through this with help.

Walk to Stop the Silence Today:

***Today***

You are personally invited to attend
"Walk to Stop the Silence"

                Where: Watsonville Plaza, Main Street in Watsonville, California

                When:  April 21, 2012  Registration at 9:30 am  Walk 11-2pm 

                Why:  To raise awareness in the prevention of Child Sexual Abuse.

               Community Resources/ Dancers/Spoken Words/Art Activities for kids/ books for sale

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March 7,1964- March 7, 2012:

"The sensational blind date..."

   
The "Under My Roof" memoir began on Saturday, March 7, 1964. This is the story of a 21 year old nursing student "falling in love." At that time there were no records on sexual abuse. It was not dealt with in the 60's. 


Today is Wednesday, March 7, 2012 and we know that one in three girls are molested before the age of 18 and at least one in 6 boys.


This story breaks the silence of a household as told by the mother. We read and hear about sexual abuse daily on television...and it's a common crime in programs.


When you purchase this book in either softcover or as an e-book, the proceeds support programs for survivors and mothers of survivors.




"The ultimate therapy is to identify our own pain with the pain of others, and then band together to resist the conditions that create our common malady."
                 ~Parker Palmer

Blessings to Survivors of Sexual Molestation:

"Parents, teenagers, teachers, clergy, counselors and people in  law enforcement would surely benefit from reading this book. Conversational in style, Under My Roof gets under the skin as well as startling and moving the heart. I found this story gripping and the book difficult to put down. I hope and pray Under My Roof has a wide readership."
Excerpt from the foreword by Fr.Patrick Dooling. Proceeds from the sale of this E book memoir benefits programs.
                                                                

Open My Eyes, Lord:

It is upsetting to read about molestation in the papers.
It is upsetting to talk about molestation in our community.
It is upsetting to think about such an act perpetrated on a child.
It is upsetting to live among those people who do such things.
It is upsetting to know someone who does this to another.
It is upsetting to be associated in any way with a perpetrator.
It is upsetting to have this happen to anyone you know.
It is upsetting to have it happen to someone you don't know.

We are all upset...1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are molested! Let's open our eyes, pay more attention.


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October, 2011: Help Support Programs by Purchasing an E-book

"It's midnight in my hell and without realizing it, I have just destroyed all the evidence!"

The proceeds from the sale of this E-book memoir will be given to support programs  for the survivors of sexual abuse. Thank you for your support.
           

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Writing Prompt:

Ruined?  I don't think so. 

I love it when people make lemonade from lemons.

When something breaks they decorate it!

A sour comment has a sweet side to it.

You get the picture.

We are all broken and we are all beautiful!

The true story is all about how YOU helped someone mend.

YOU have been a shining star in someone's life.

If it weren't for YOU it wouldn't have worked.

Nice job! 

Thank YOU.

Mothers: Hugs & Stuff

   There is such joy in hearing our children laugh.
What pleasure watching them on the winter beach playing, looking for shells, talking and taking a respite from the cold snowy months. I look forward
to visits.
    No matter how old you are... your mother still wants to hold you in her arms. It's funny how we don't understand many things until we have had a
similar experience. Keep making warm memories.


                                Mother
     


In 1989 I bought a brick from the ruins of the earthquake and the inscription said, "It's wasn't  your fault!"  This was better than a message in a bottle. It is the cornerstone of my brick patio.
                                                                         EK




                     

Don't Ask Don't Tell: Post #100

 Better a hundred enemies outside the 
house than one inside. 
                             Arabian Proverb


                "Don't tell your mother!"


"Be quiet the baby is sleeping."                                         

     "Every single person has a secret"
                                  
                                 "Shhhh, I promise... it will be okay."

 If anyone is hurting your child tell someone you trust.

Mothers: Stop, Look, and Listen

                                         Emalou King

Feed your faith, and your doubts will starve to death.      

                                               -E.C. McKenzie

         First believe what your children tell you...or try to tell you.  If they are only hinting at something or sound confused then ask more questions. Mothers, please STOP for a second and LOOK at their eyes and face like you did when they were newborns, remember?  And be still. LISTEN.Give them time to find the words to tell you. Your children need your full presence.