Wednesday, April 2, 2014

You Are Invited to Walk to Stop the Silence:

(my favorite sweatshirt) 

10;30 AM

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

April is Sexual Abuse Awareness Month:


Bookshop Santa Cruz and the Survivor's Healing Center held an Event to highlight abuse awareness.

 Local author, Emalou King, read from her memoir, "Under My Roof ~ A Mother's Story of the Heinous Crime of Incest."

Friday, March 7, 2014

50 Years Ago:


MARCH 7, 1964 - MARCH 7, 2014

This is a day I will never forget.
 It's the day that I had a blind date.
After a few dates there followed an engagement.
My loving family told me not to marry him.
Well, I did anyway against their wishes.
I was wrong.
They were right.

"Under My Roof ~ A Mother's story of the Heinous Crime of Incest"... is my memoir.

The book signing will be held at Book Shop Santa Cruz on March 25, a Tuesday evening.
The Survivor's Healing Center of Santa Cruz will be there to answer questions.

All proceeds from the sale of this book helps the programs they provide.

It may be 50 years ago but our memories seem to hold these events forever.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

My Anytime Journal:

     In 1981, I started a journal and then misplaced it. I found it months later in 1981. But, the third entry was in 1986. Again I tossed the book into a drawer, forgot about it and found it in November of 1987. Each entry became an update of my life at that time.
     TODAY I found it. There is an entry nearly once a year with a gap between 2004 and 2009 and 2011 and today I journaled.  I call this my anytime book . I can find it just about anywhere and it's a call for me to write about this day in my life.
     Wonder if anyone else has done something like this? Please let me know about your journaling... 
Life happens whether we document it or not. My teacher used to tell us " if you didn't write it, you didn't do it!"
     My thoughts are rambling so will stop and get centered. This usually happens with prayer. How joy filled I am that I have been to Jerusalem and I am looking forward to the release of the movie, "Son of God."

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Peace Be With You:

     I am with two Israeli guards at the Jordon River where Baptismal vows were renewed.  
     Who or what makes you feel safe? 
I am in Jerusalem. My FOCUS has been on Jesus Christ and following the word of God. What am amazing journey! 
      Feeling safe comes from the inside. If your children seem unsafe or nervous around people make sure to question them! Protect women and children.

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Stop The Silence:


YOU be her voice.
Stop the silence.
Tell someone.

Mothers need help too.
Help her take the necessary steps.
It is not easy.
It will be difficult.
You can do it.

Friday, January 17, 2014

Spiritually Alive Relationships:



1. High energy and excitement

2. Responsive to each other's needs

3. Passionate sexual encounters

4. High trust level

5. Best friends with each other

6. Many meaningful talks and true feelings shared

7. Know each other, listen and understand

8. Pleasure in each other's company

9. Manageable lifestyle- can say "no" to protect the coupleship

10. Plan playtime carefully

11. Work through conflicts

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Spiritually Dead Relationships:

Check this out...

Do you have Spiritually Dead Relationships?

 1. Low energy and sadness
 2. Indifferent to each other's needs
 3. Passionless sexual encounters
 4. Lack of trust
 5. Best friends outside coupleship
 6. Routine and superficial communications
 7. Both feel unheard and misunderstood
 8. Grim times together
 9. Busy and chaotic lifestyle...can't say "no" to invaders
10. Not much playtime together
11. Silent treatment and avoidance

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Merry Christmas:

From my house to your house...
Wishing all of you abundant blessings
this Christmas season
God bless you
Keep safe

Emalou King, RN, BSN, PHN
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Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Happy Thanksgiving:

Hope you all enjoy your dinner today but remember the FOCUS should be on the ONE who blesses us! Thinking of my family and friends, neighbors and fellow parishioners.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Stop the Silence:


Many survivors have told me that they wish their mother
had read my book. I would suggest you buy my book for them.
Let them write in it. Underline things and cross out stuff.
It is in the second edition which means an introduction
has been added and also a section for beginning conversations.
Let's talk about it. I would also invite "mothers of survivors" to contact me.
This has been helpful to discuss and support one another.
Each day more and more mothers are in the spot we have been in.
We are strong. We have voices and we love our children.
You can do this. We can't do it alone. Our faith is the biggest contributor
but this is a start.
Walk into any bookstore and order it today.
And I thank you and the Survivor's Healing Center thanks you.

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

The Evening News:

The evening news names the newest sexual abuse cases. A Rabbi for one and a school bus driver. There is NO place that is risk free for our children. 

Remember that most victims of abuse know their abuser. So important to sit down and eat meals with your children and spend time talking to them. Even then it may not be possible to protect them but you must always try.

Tuesday, October 29, 2013


"...I remembered the smell of his breath, the tone of his voice and his piercing stare. Out of habit, I scanned the obits for his name and finished my coffee."
Today I read his obit in the paper. I finished my coffee and got into the shower.   Emalou King

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Rape in the Fields:

In June 2013, PBS Frontline aired a segment about the sexual exploitation of migrant field workers in the United States called Rape in the Fields. The news story was released by PBS in both English and Spanish. Crops in the story were referred to as "field of panties." At the time of the airing of this news documentary, no criminal prosecutions had been brought forward by farm workers and no reliable statistics were available. It is clearly a huge problem and hardship for the victims.

On the news (this week in October 2013) 30 cases of rape in the fields had been reported in Watsonville. Many people fear losing their jobs. 
Thank you for stoping the silence. 
There is help available.
Rape is a crime. 

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Monday, October 21, 2013

Join the Movement:






Wednesday, October 16, 2013


Little LuLu and Tubby
(a vintagre paper plate from a birthday party)

Someone asked me today where to start writing...
Use a prompt such as above,
You can look at a family picture,
pull up a memory,
look in a  desk drawer,
answer a question,
start from your birth,
work you way backwards starting today,
 you might have interpreted that to mean 'where...'
in the living room,
at a coffee shoppe,
in the kitchen,  in your car, at your office,
the park, the patio, the porch,, the couch,
anyplace where you won't get disturbed unless you want to be.

As we all so often hear...
just START writing.

Monday, October 14, 2013


Monday is a holiday. October 14th.  Are your plans productive?
Do you end up cleaning and doing the errands and chores on
the days you have off or do you relax and enjoy the day?
I love to hang the flag on these days. It's such a reminder
of this great country. It's hard to remember how wonderful this great nation is of ours when there is so much discourse. But I am grateful to live here. Thank you God for our great country and for the persons who first arrived. Prayers for our president and congress. I prefer to make our holidays holy days and attend Mass in Thanksgiving.

Monday, October 7, 2013

Buy a Book, Support a Program:


Fr. Patrick Dooling of Monterey
wrote the foreword to the book written by Emalou King, RN of Soquel.
This book is available now...
Reviews can be read on Amazon and it can
also be ordered from any book store in the country.

It's time to start the conversation about child sexual abuse with others.
This is not a topic anyone wants to talk about, but it might save a life.

The trauma from rape and sexual abuse should not be kept secret or 
forgotten. It is helpful to find ways to heal  and share your story.

Proceeds go to the Survivor's Healing Center of Santa Cruz, California.
The most comprehensive program in the country for survivor's of 
sexual abuse.

Sunday, October 6, 2013

A Living Rosary:


Tonight I was part of a living Rosary.
50 people gathered  seated in a circle with an unlit candle.
As each Hail Mary was said, a candle was lit...then that person lit the next persons
on the next Hail Mary. (And the lights were dimmined)
We said the Five  JOYFUL mysteries:
(Annunciation, Visitation, Birth of Our Lord, Presentation of our Lord
and finding of Our Lord in the Temple)

Between the decades songs were song by Donna Lee, Gretchen Harris,
John Grasadonia and Deacon Patrick Conway.

It was very beautiful and touching.
Held at Resurrection Parish in Aptos.
Sorry if you missed it.

FAITH and SPIRITUALITY are two ways to help in the healing process.
Check out the events held in your community or
Attend a group at our Survivor's Healing Center.

Don't forget to order  a book at the bookstore.
"Under My Roof~ A Mother's Story of the Heinous Crime of Incest"
Read the reviews on Amazon
The Survivor's Healing Center thanks you...big time!

Friday, October 4, 2013

Feast of St. Francis:

Happy St. Francis Day

Thank you  God for Pope Francis!