Sunday, February 22, 2015

End Violence:

One Billion Rising is an important event giving a voice to the survivor and making known the resources in communities.

Monday, February 16, 2015

Breaking the Silence:


One thing I really dislike is when people start talking about things but don't know what they are saying. You know the type that likes to hear the center of attention. Basically they make up. 

You are not sure what is happening. 
You think something might be wrong.
Something doesn't feel quite right.
Is something amiss here? Could be.
I'm a mother and what's going on?

"If s mother thinks something is wrong, something is wrong." Btesk the silence. 
Make a report. Tell someone. Protect your family members, neighbors and even strangers.

                   Thank You

Sunday, February 8, 2015

Queen of the Universe:

Tell your children to keep the faith. Our mothers may not always be around for us but Jesus, son of God, gave us His Blessed Mother to comfort and console us. How often I turn to her for consolation. This can be the greatest tool for a survivor. Let children know about her. I keep her on my refrigerator as a reminder to call on her. You too, Please. Amen.

Saturday, January 31, 2015

Saturday, January 24, 2015

How to Spell Trouble:

We all usually know what to do AFTER we recognize a problem. So,this word lived ...becomes a solution . We see children react to being too hungry, angry, lonely or tired. Well, So do you and I. 
Next time-halt! Stop! Think about it and take care of the problem.
     You're welcome,

Thursday, January 22, 2015

Non-profits Profit: a HUGE THANKS❤️


Every Life is a Gift:

My mother probably took this picture and this time she didn't cut  our heads Off.
  I am posting this picture while watching the 'March for Life ' in Washington,DC. 
My mother was told to have an abortion when she was pregnant with my sister. My mother said, "absolutely not! " 
That doctor died before her due date. I was a most difficult delivery for my mother but my sister was the easiest ever. 
I thank God every day for my sister! She brings joy to our family and today is my best friend. 
          We are a PRO-LIFE family!
My grandson is marching today and I am proud of this new generation. Thank you!

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Read, Write and Talk:

In order to 'Stop the silence' 
start a conversation,
With subjects
Like child sexual abuse,
Wierd  people in the family,
What's normal?

Educate yourself
What would YOU do?
Who would you call?
Do you know how it could happen right under your roof?
Are there people to talk to?
How could this happen?
Have you ever heard of incest or did you look it up?

My book was read in two hours by a court reporter
From the Sirhan Sirhan case
And the Charles Manson trial.

Either read it on line or with e-reader.
The softcover is on Amazon and in book stores .
Read it today!

The royalties from this book are given to
The Survivors Healing Center
Santa Cruz, California

Sunday, January 18, 2015

Permission to Mourn:

Joanie  Lundell & Casey

Honoring  one of  my friends
Who died of cancer in 2014.
Joanie died in 2014 and I have really been missing her.
I took this picture in her kitchen the day she 
Shaved her head!

She called on my cell. "Come over, quick," she said.
I was in the neighborhood running errands and hurried over.

The gate was unlocked and the sliding glass door open.
When I called out her name, she hesitated for only a second before she 
Jumped out, arms outstretched with a "Taaaa-daaaa!"

"What do you think?
 I'm a blonde!
And I'm gonna have fun with all of this!"
I was speechless and supported her courageous spirit.

You can see her Christmas tree in the background. 
It was always spectacular.  Once she kept it up all year long.
It was about living and loving always with that spirit. 

If she didn't pray for you....she probably hadn't met you. 
I have a committment to say the rosary on the 17th of each month. 
I remembered while we were at Shadowbrook 
In front of a big roaring fire having a drink...
And yes, using our fingers we prayed the Rosary.

May the Souls of the faithful departed,  rest in peace, amen.

A new way to do grief by Tom Zuba 
Is a new book that I suggest reading.

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Be Prepared:

On  November 19, I was flying around my house in the best of health for the whole past year...back to my"old" self! This meant I was very productive around the house and wasn't paying as much attention to things outside as I should. It was garbage day...get the cans from the back yard out to the curb. 

It was getting dark and it was raining. 
I took off out the side door, whipped around the back of my new car and TRIPPED over the black rain spout that juts out on the ground. I went down so fast there was no time for my life to flash in front of me. 

My head bounced on the driveway. I tasted blood, my tongue tasted warm blood when my lip split inside. I screamed for help and spit  out asphalt leaving little chunks stuck between my teeth. My neighbors were home and immediately came to my rescue. One called 9-1-1 while the other put blankets on me and told me not to move while the rain pooled beneath me. Others came from nearby as well as the biggest fire truck and ambulance.

Now to the point of this blog. I was shocky and too many people talked all at once. The fireman asked to enter my house and I approved. On my fridge was my FILE of LIFE card. It contained all the information needed to facilitate a smooth transfer to the Emergency room. These magnetic info cards are handy and the fireman thanked me for having one.  Of course, I never thought it would get used. Please get one. Ask your pharmacist.

Oh, I broke my arm. It was an undisplaced fracture of the radial head. No cast. I am healing but it was a life changing event with my family. So, be prepared...And most of all, be careful !

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Happy New Year 2015

When the new year rolls around we get a clean slate. I love to start over. As you can see I have not been blogging for awhile. It doesn't mean I don't have plenty of things to talk about , but I can't always figure something out technically! It takes time and usually it's by accident ... Like now. So...welcome this  New Year!! 
I am carrying my journal with me so I can capture the highlites of my day. Track yours too. We are all making new memories.

Thursday, October 30, 2014

2014 Happy Halloween:

No matter what you do on Halloween
Be safe.
Protect your children.
Check out their candy.
And Jesus loves you...

"Deliver us from evil,"

Monday, October 27, 2014

Volunteer of the Year Award:

Thank you for the 
Volunteer of The Year Award
from the Survivor's Healing Center

Emalou King, RN, BSN, PHN

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Information about The Criminal Rapist:

The average age of the rapist is 31 years old.

52% are white

In 1 in 3 sexual assaults, the perpetrator was intoxicated.

More than 50% of all rape/sexual assault incidents were reported to have occurred within 1 mile of the victim's home or AT their home.

1 rape in 12 takes place in a parking garage.

43% of rapes occur  between 6:00pm and midnight.
24% occur between midnight and 6:00 am
33% take place between 6:00 am and 6:00 pm

46% of rapist are more likely to be a serial criminal than a serial rapist.
(other crimes include drug, property and violent offenses)

Saturday, October 18, 2014


It makes me sick to see the smiling face of the 
"7th Heaven" character who will not be charged with,
or made responsible for, the heinous crimes of sexual abuse to children.

Too much time has passed?  Give me a break. To the person who
was molested it can be like minutes before or like yesterday.
There are events, sounds, smells, and sights that can trigger
a most painful rape. You don't realize how such actions have impacted
the lives of young girls and boys.

Excuse me, and don't be fooled into thinking the behavior has stopped!!
There are other ways the perp may be "getting off" still using children.

"If you think something is amiss, something is amiss.
If you think something is wrong, something IS wrong!"

Please help pass laws that make the perpetrator responsible no matter when the 
victim/survivor discloses this information.

The royalties from the sale of this book all go to the Survivor's Healing Center.
Ask for it at your library and/or order it at any bookstore.

Thank you.

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Christian Faith:

It was when I saw a young man wearing this tag
thatI realized we are  " in training" to
become more like Jesus!
I could not have made it this far in my life
 without this grace.
I  know the only thing
that satisfies this thirst is Jesus!

Thanks be to God for all His wonderful blessings+

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Mask of Shame:

Children believe 
  is happening at THEIR home is 
happening at everyone else's house and is NORMAL. 

This thinking  can go on right through High School and into
 Some girls are surprised to learn that their friends didn't have 
to do things to the dad or with the brother.

I hope the amount of information on the media is
 letting people know that hitting, screaming,
 slugging and slapping 
or a sexual relationship is NOT normal.

Being respected is normal.
Having privacy in the bathroom is normal.

Please take off your blinders. 

There are sexual offenders in all areas of service.


The blue mask is available at "Carolines" in Aptos in case you need a good nites sleep!

Monday, August 11, 2014

Clothes Make a Difference:

My Nun Collection

Scene One:
A well dressed man went out
into the streets and asked people for money. Everyone
he begged from, at least dug into their pockets . It didn't take long and he had acquired a big chunk of change, once even being given five dollars.

Scene Two:
The same man went back to wardrobe and changed into worn old clothes.
His hair was messed a little, his shoes scuffed and his pants wrinkled.
He asked people for help. They walked by as if he were invisible.  He approached others who sneared, put their hand in the air with a 'back off' sign,  or
handed  him a few coins.

Clothes do make a difference. 
When I look at my nun collection I remember my excitement.
I liked being able to recognize them. I would be half a block down
the street and in my mind practicing, "Good afternoon, Sister," so I
could say it with a smile. I miss that and am grateful that
there still are some "Orders" who have a habit.
It was also a reminder to pray.
It was a reminder that people dedicated their entire life for Jesus.

I guess I can make a comment about change.
Some like it and others do not...but, then
I liked Nurses in whites wearing a cap and also Doctors with a white coat
and name embroidered on the left over the pocket.
Talk about the "olden" days!

Just another one of those days where I feel my age!

Saturday, August 2, 2014

Healing Through Photos for 52 Weeks

Hi Everyone,

Healing is about change. I realized for the first time that I actually skipped the month of July and didn't post on my blog. I also lost my dearest buddy here in California to Cancer. Her funeral was yesterday. It was was beautiful celebration of her life. She was a role model and a lovely lady. She is missed and left many good messages during the fun times we shared.

So now, I am doing something new with a large group of people. You too might want to think about what to add or delete from your schedule. I will take a photo and follow  a theme for 52 weeks. This will be fun, a challenge, and lead in a new direction.

Still some difficulty figuring out all the particulars so printed out the wordpress directions but hit the button twice in my frustration and now have 32 pages of staring at me so I came back to blogspot but can't start all over because it recognizes me! So I'll change this up a bit!

Oh,'ll see a picture when I get one up.
Thank you for your patience!

Emalou King

Sunday, June 29, 2014

Supporting Mother's of Survivors:

Emalou &  Kathy

Emalou King, RN, BSN, PHN  presented Kathy Riley of Survivors Healing Center
a check from the royalties of her book to help support programs for mothers and other
family members of sexual abuse in Santa Cruz County. This is a comprehensive program reaching out
to boys and girls, men and women and bilinqual teens in the area.

Thank you for continuing to purchase the second edition of
Under My Roof~
A Mother's Story of the Heinous Crime of Incest

available in all bookstores for the asking and also on line in ebook format.)

Call 831-423-7601 for help

Friday, June 27, 2014

Good Handwashing:

Proper handwashing has been found to be better
than the improper use of the gloves that can become easily contaminated.
Wash your hands well. This takes a conscience effort.

Make sure you scrub long enough as well as between the fingers and up to the wrists.
I find that it's just the best time for me personally to say my "Hail Mary's!" 
Some people sing Happy Birthday. This gives you an idea of the length of time it takes of having friction between the hands.

Nurses...well, we usually wash our hands before and after we go to the bathroom!!


Most people  don't have to post a sign...
In order to have people understand what they can and can't do
you must be clear with your signals.
You step forward or backwards as someone approaches you.
Reading signals is an interesting subject and much can be found on the internet.
Check out some of this information and add it to your list
of things you observe when you are out "people watching!"
I don't mean stalking...just having fun with others at the mall while you are shopping!!