Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Mask of Shame:

Children believe 
  is happening at THEIR home is 
happening at everyone else's house and is NORMAL. 

This thinking  can go on right through High School and into
 Some girls are surprised to learn that their friends didn't have 
to do things to the dad or with the brother.

I hope the amount of information on the media is
 letting people know that hitting, screaming,
 slugging and slapping 
or a sexual relationship is NOT normal.

Being respected is normal.
Having privacy in the bathroom is normal.

Please take off your blinders. 

There are sexual offenders in all areas of service.


The blue mask is available at "Carolines" in Aptos in case you need a good nites sleep!

Monday, August 11, 2014

Clothes Make a Difference:

My Nun Collection

Scene One:
A well dressed man went out
into the streets and asked people for money. Everyone
he begged from, at least dug into their pockets . It didn't take long and he had acquired a big chunk of change, once even being given five dollars.

Scene Two:
The same man went back to wardrobe and changed into worn old clothes.
His hair was messed a little, his shoes scuffed and his pants wrinkled.
He asked people for help. They walked by as if he were invisible.  He approached others who sneared, put their hand in the air with a 'back off' sign,  or
handed  him a few coins.

Clothes do make a difference. 
When I look at my nun collection I remember my excitement.
I liked being able to recognize them. I would be half a block down
the street and in my mind practicing, "Good afternoon, Sister," so I
could say it with a smile. I miss that and am grateful that
there still are some "Orders" who have a habit.
It was also a reminder to pray.
It was a reminder that people dedicated their entire life for Jesus.

I guess I can make a comment about change.
Some like it and others do not...but, then
I liked Nurses in whites wearing a cap and also Doctors with a white coat
and name embroidered on the left over the pocket.
Talk about the "olden" days!

Just another one of those days where I feel my age!

Saturday, August 2, 2014

Healing Through Photos for 52 Weeks

Hi Everyone,

Healing is about change. I realized for the first time that I actually skipped the month of July and didn't post on my blog. I also lost my dearest buddy here in California to Cancer. Her funeral was yesterday. It was was beautiful celebration of her life. She was a role model and a lovely lady. She is missed and left many good messages during the fun times we shared.

So now, I am doing something new with a large group of people. You too might want to think about what to add or delete from your schedule. I will take a photo and follow  a theme for 52 weeks. This will be fun, a challenge, and lead in a new direction.

Still some difficulty figuring out all the particulars so printed out the wordpress directions but hit the button twice in my frustration and now have 32 pages of staring at me so I came back to blogspot but can't start all over because it recognizes me! So I'll change this up a bit!

Oh, well...you'll see a picture when I get one up.
Thank you for your patience!

Emalou King

Sunday, June 29, 2014

Supporting Mother's of Survivors:

Emalou &  Kathy

Emalou King, RN, BSN, PHN  presented Kathy Riley of Survivors Healing Center
a check from the royalties of her book to help support programs for mothers and other
family members of sexual abuse in Santa Cruz County. This is a comprehensive program reaching out
to boys and girls, men and women and bilinqual teens in the area.

Thank you for continuing to purchase the second edition of
Under My Roof~
A Mother's Story of the Heinous Crime of Incest

available in all bookstores for the asking and also on line in ebook format.)

Call 831-423-7601 for help

Friday, June 27, 2014

Good Handwashing:

Proper handwashing has been found to be better
than the improper use of the gloves that can become easily contaminated.
Wash your hands well. This takes a conscience effort.

Make sure you scrub long enough as well as between the fingers and up to the wrists.
I find that it's just the best time for me personally to say my "Hail Mary's!" 
Some people sing Happy Birthday. This gives you an idea of the length of time it takes of having friction between the hands.

Nurses...well, we usually wash our hands before and after we go to the bathroom!!


Most people  don't have to post a sign...
In order to have people understand what they can and can't do
you must be clear with your signals.
You step forward or backwards as someone approaches you.
Reading signals is an interesting subject and much can be found on the internet.
Check out some of this information and add it to your list
of things you observe when you are out "people watching!"
I don't mean stalking...just having fun with others at the mall while you are shopping!!

Saturday, June 7, 2014

Daughter Makes Mother Proud:

My daughter, Vicky  will be singing God Bless America
at the game between the Tampa Bay Rays and the Seattle Mariners on Sunday June 8, 2014 in Tampa Bay.
Her  group of students, the Singing Saints, a group of high school students from
Bismarck Central will be singing The National Anthem.
So proud of her achievements.
She is a role model for all survivors.

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Happy Mother's Day:

May is Mary's Month and she is our mother
given to us by her son, Jesus, as she stood at the foot of the cross.
How many times do we stand with her at that foot of the cross?
She knows how difficult life can get at times and will intervene for us to her Son.
Don't forget about her. She never forgets about you. 
How blessed we are.
So Happy Mother's Day to Our Blessed Mother.

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

You Are Invited to Walk to Stop the Silence:

(my favorite sweatshirt) 

10;30 AM

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

April is Sexual Abuse Awareness Month:


Bookshop Santa Cruz and the Survivor's Healing Center held an Event to highlight abuse awareness.

 Local author, Emalou King, read from her memoir, "Under My Roof ~ A Mother's Story of the Heinous Crime of Incest."

Friday, March 7, 2014

50 Years Ago:


MARCH 7, 1964 - MARCH 7, 2014

This is a day I will never forget.
 It's the day that I had a blind date.
After a few dates there followed an engagement.
My loving family told me not to marry him.
Well, I did anyway against their wishes.
I was wrong.
They were right.

"Under My Roof ~ A Mother's story of the Heinous Crime of Incest"... is my memoir.

The book signing will be held at Book Shop Santa Cruz on March 25, a Tuesday evening.
The Survivor's Healing Center of Santa Cruz will be there to answer questions.

All proceeds from the sale of this book helps the programs they provide.

It may be 50 years ago but our memories seem to hold these events forever.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

My Anytime Journal:

     In 1981, I started a journal and then misplaced it. I found it months later in 1981. But, the third entry was in 1986. Again I tossed the book into a drawer, forgot about it and found it in November of 1987. Each entry became an update of my life at that time.
     TODAY I found it. There is an entry nearly once a year with a gap between 2004 and 2009 and 2011 and today I journaled.  I call this my anytime book . I can find it just about anywhere and it's a call for me to write about this day in my life.
     Wonder if anyone else has done something like this? Please let me know about your journaling... 
Life happens whether we document it or not. My teacher used to tell us " if you didn't write it, you didn't do it!"
     My thoughts are rambling so will stop and get centered. This usually happens with prayer. How joy filled I am that I have been to Jerusalem and I am looking forward to the release of the movie, "Son of God."

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Peace Be With You:

     I am with two Israeli guards at the Jordon River where Baptismal vows were renewed.  
     Who or what makes you feel safe? 
I am in Jerusalem. My FOCUS has been on Jesus Christ and following the word of God. What am amazing journey! 
      Feeling safe comes from the inside. If your children seem unsafe or nervous around people make sure to question them! Protect women and children.

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Stop The Silence:


YOU be her voice.
Stop the silence.
Tell someone.

Mothers need help too.
Help her take the necessary steps.
It is not easy.
It will be difficult.
You can do it.

Friday, January 17, 2014

Spiritually Alive Relationships:



1. High energy and excitement

2. Responsive to each other's needs

3. Passionate sexual encounters

4. High trust level

5. Best friends with each other

6. Many meaningful talks and true feelings shared

7. Know each other, listen and understand

8. Pleasure in each other's company

9. Manageable lifestyle- can say "no" to protect the coupleship

10. Plan playtime carefully

11. Work through conflicts

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Spiritually Dead Relationships:

Check this out...

Do you have Spiritually Dead Relationships?

 1. Low energy and sadness
 2. Indifferent to each other's needs
 3. Passionless sexual encounters
 4. Lack of trust
 5. Best friends outside coupleship
 6. Routine and superficial communications
 7. Both feel unheard and misunderstood
 8. Grim times together
 9. Busy and chaotic lifestyle...can't say "no" to invaders
10. Not much playtime together
11. Silent treatment and avoidance

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Merry Christmas:

From my house to your house...
Wishing all of you abundant blessings
this Christmas season
God bless you
Keep safe

Emalou King, RN, BSN, PHN
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Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Happy Thanksgiving:

Hope you all enjoy your dinner today but remember the FOCUS should be on the ONE who blesses us! Thinking of my family and friends, neighbors and fellow parishioners.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Stop the Silence:


Many survivors have told me that they wish their mother
had read my book. I would suggest you buy my book for them.
Let them write in it. Underline things and cross out stuff.
It is in the second edition which means an introduction
has been added and also a section for beginning conversations.
Let's talk about it. I would also invite "mothers of survivors" to contact me.
This has been helpful to discuss and support one another.
Each day more and more mothers are in the spot we have been in.
We are strong. We have voices and we love our children.
You can do this. We can't do it alone. Our faith is the biggest contributor
but this is a start.
Walk into any bookstore and order it today.
And I thank you and the Survivor's Healing Center thanks you.