Welcome to My Blog...When a MOTHER thinks something is amiss...something is amiss. When a MOTHER thinks something is wrong...something is wrong!
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Motivation:
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discipline,
lifestyle,
motivation
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Sex in Syracuse:
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#sex in Syracuse,
reporting
Monday, November 28, 2011
The Town Clock:
Santa Cruz, California |
When a molestation happens in a family it may not be talked about...but it is never forgotten. And you would be surprised, maybe even shocked at the survivor's successes in life in spite of this heinous crime perpetrated on them. They are truly survivors.
One in three girls are molested before the age of 18 and one in six boys. Now that my book is published I meet men and women who share that they were molested in childhood but they never told anyone including their mother...What do you say? Thank them for telling you. And let them know it was not their fault.
Can you imagine the size of the gathering of wounded souls- reported and unreported cases- around the town clock in our community?
Every night on the news when there are new sexual crime reports sited it bothers the survivors and friends of the survivors.
Let us pray, Please God... help us make it STOP.
The Survivor's Healing Center can help you and there
are other resources available here on this site.
I am sorry that it happened.
Emalou
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#Santa Cruz,
Ca.,
Gatherings,
The Town Clock
Sunday, November 27, 2011
The Advent Wreath: WEEK ONE
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#Christmas preparation.,
tradition #Advent wreath
Saturday, November 26, 2011
Every Day is for Thanks-giving:
Oh, God, when I have food,
help me to remember the hungry;
When I have work, help me
to remember the jobless;
When I have a warm home,
Help me to remember the homeless;
When I am without pain,
Help me to remember those who suffer'
And remembering, help me
to destroy my complacency
and bestir my compassion.
Make me concerned enough to help,
by word and deed, those who cry out for what we take for granted
Samuel F. Pugh
Ps. Thanksgiving prayers are said every day not just on "Thanksgiving." Stay in gratitude and thank God for what you are about to receive...as if it has already been granted. Amen
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#Thanksgiving prayer.
Friday, November 25, 2011
Black Friday:
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#black Friday,
#sexual abuse,
#talk Friday
Thursday, November 24, 2011
Happy Thanksgiving 2011:
Thanksgiving to our God!
We thank thee God for food we eat,
For families and friends we meet,
For books we read and songs we sing,
We thank thee God for... HERBIE KING!
Herbie King ~ age 6 ~ Shih Tzu |
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#grace #pets,
#gratitude,
#Thanksgiving
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
How to Make Changes:
Get Serious About Making a Change if necessary but remember... if you do what you did, you'll get what you got.
To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did. So go for it.
What to change...Get a jump on your resolution and/or wait until the stroke of midnight on 12/31/11 and start with new beginnings in 2012. I have to think about it in advance so I'm thinking about it now.
To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did. So go for it.
What to change...Get a jump on your resolution and/or wait until the stroke of midnight on 12/31/11 and start with new beginnings in 2012. I have to think about it in advance so I'm thinking about it now.
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#Changing,
resolutions.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Uncover, Discover, Recover:
Monday, November 21, 2011
Excerpt from A Memoir:
2009 |
"...I drifted off with clips of that nightmare running on the inside of my eyelids ... I remembered the smell of his breath, the tone of his voice and his piercing stare. Out of habit, I scanned the obits for his name and finished my coffee." (excerpt from Under My Roof) I couldn't possibly pretend to understand the depths of a perpetrator and most of us can't. They gain the parents trust, continue using 'grooming' techniques and begin their molesting. They are never in a hurry, they have patience and perseverance. Learn more when you read, Under My Roof ~ A Mother's Story of the Heinous Crime of Incest |
Sunday, November 20, 2011
Calling All Mothers:
It's not the same today in 2011 as it was in the 70's, 80's, or 90's. Do you remember what it used to be like? If not this is a peek of the past.
Nurses wore white uniforms, white shoes, white hose and a nursing cap with a black velvet stripe to signify she was an RN. There was no perfume, make up, nail polish or jewelry worn. They were proud of their school pin and class logo. Scrubs worn outside of an operating room were forbidden. Today it's different. Sometimes it's even hard to tell who is the nurse in the setting. Nurses are fragmented and specialized. It they united this group would be tremendously powerful to change laws.
What hasn't changed is our handle on sexual molestation of girls and boys under the age of 18. We are still unable to protect them from perpetrators. We know more but it seems like the topic is so vile that we are unable to have discussions. Each one of the victims has a mother and mothers...when we get together we are powerful! I am talking to the ones who did not offend their child. We can ban together, make a difference and change the thinking. If you are the mother of a survivor, I am looking for you. It you are a mother who wants to become involved, you are also welcome.
If you want to help the survivors. Purchase "Under My Roof..." and you are doing just that. The profits from this book are given to support programs.
Nurses wore white uniforms, white shoes, white hose and a nursing cap with a black velvet stripe to signify she was an RN. There was no perfume, make up, nail polish or jewelry worn. They were proud of their school pin and class logo. Scrubs worn outside of an operating room were forbidden. Today it's different. Sometimes it's even hard to tell who is the nurse in the setting. Nurses are fragmented and specialized. It they united this group would be tremendously powerful to change laws.
What hasn't changed is our handle on sexual molestation of girls and boys under the age of 18. We are still unable to protect them from perpetrators. We know more but it seems like the topic is so vile that we are unable to have discussions. Each one of the victims has a mother and mothers...when we get together we are powerful! I am talking to the ones who did not offend their child. We can ban together, make a difference and change the thinking. If you are the mother of a survivor, I am looking for you. It you are a mother who wants to become involved, you are also welcome.
If you want to help the survivors. Purchase "Under My Roof..." and you are doing just that. The profits from this book are given to support programs.
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Mother's of Survivors unite,
Nurses,
Raise Awareness,
RN
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Food for Thought:
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#intervention,
#The Practice,
12 step programs
Friday, November 18, 2011
Keep the Faith:
Thursday, November 17, 2011
We Need Law and Order: SVU
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#Break the silence,
billboard at the trainstation,
Law and Order SVU
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Break The Silence:
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#Break the silence,
Nike
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Rock Center Rocks:
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Jerry Sandusky,
Rock Center
Monday, November 14, 2011
Mothers Reported Penn State Abuse:
Today (November 14) I still think and write about self care around the shame and betrayal from people who were thought to be trustworthy at Penn State. Molestation is a crime of violence and power. I applaud the reporting made by the mothers to protect their children. I have written about my own attempts in discovery and protection.Penn State is another example of how it doesn't always work.
One of the best methods of self care for a mother's deep grief is first to recognize it, drink more water to prevent dehydration, take about 20 minutes every day to be sad and angry and then go back to your normal routine. Don't dwell on it. Don't isolate, make a gratitude list. Be grateful for the basics of food, clothing and shelter, for good health and all the other positives in your life. Read it out loud...add one more thing...and one more thing...and one more thing! I prayed often. I had a sponsor, one person I talked to frequently and received the love and support I needed to get through this traumatic experience. Eventually you get a scab.
One of the best methods of self care for a mother's deep grief is first to recognize it, drink more water to prevent dehydration, take about 20 minutes every day to be sad and angry and then go back to your normal routine. Don't dwell on it. Don't isolate, make a gratitude list. Be grateful for the basics of food, clothing and shelter, for good health and all the other positives in your life. Read it out loud...add one more thing...and one more thing...and one more thing! I prayed often. I had a sponsor, one person I talked to frequently and received the love and support I needed to get through this traumatic experience. Eventually you get a scab.
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grief,
Mother's of Penn State survivors,
reporting abuse
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Blessings to Survivors of Sexual Molestation:
"Parents, teenagers, teachers, clergy, counselors and people in law enforcement would surely benefit from reading this book. Conversational in style, Under My Roof gets under the skin as well as startling and moving the heart. I found this story gripping and the book difficult to put down. I hope and pray Under My Roof has a wide readership."
Excerpt from the foreword by Fr.Patrick Dooling. Proceeds from the sale of this E book memoir benefits programs.
Excerpt from the foreword by Fr.Patrick Dooling. Proceeds from the sale of this E book memoir benefits programs.
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How could it happen,
Incest,
Sexual molestation
Saturday, November 12, 2011
Mothers of Survivors:
I swore I'd write for class this week but instead I bought a treadmill! I had too much to say and really didn't know how to write about the sexual abuse from Penn State. It was like picking the scab off an old wound. Anyone with trauma was traumatized all over again. Many of us cried about this.
Then I thought about tattle-tales. Children are told not to do it but adults?? We need to tattle. We need to speak out and fight for our kids. It was the mothers who came forward...who tattled. Thank you.
These crimes remind me of when I spilled India Ink on my chenille bedspread in the eighth grade. I had to look at it each day and it was in such a place that I couldn't flip it around or throw a pillow over it. It was in my face. This huge sexual stain is in our face and there will be consequences and much discovery.
My prayers for healing and support go to the survivors and mother's of survivors and their family.
Then I thought about tattle-tales. Children are told not to do it but adults?? We need to tattle. We need to speak out and fight for our kids. It was the mothers who came forward...who tattled. Thank you.
These crimes remind me of when I spilled India Ink on my chenille bedspread in the eighth grade. I had to look at it each day and it was in such a place that I couldn't flip it around or throw a pillow over it. It was in my face. This huge sexual stain is in our face and there will be consequences and much discovery.
My prayers for healing and support go to the survivors and mother's of survivors and their family.
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Mother's of survivors
Friday, November 11, 2011
11-11-11:
I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America And to the Republic for which it stands, One Nation... Under God... Indivisible... With Liberty and Justice for All. God Bless all the living and deceased vets and wounded warriors who have preserved our freedom. I'm proud to be an American! GOD BLESS AMERICA Thank you! |
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11-11-11,
Pledge of Allegiance
Thursday, November 10, 2011
Joe Paterno Fired:
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control,
Joe Paterno fired,
violence
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Emergency Alert System:
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Herman Cain,
Italian Prime Minister,
Jerry Sandusky
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Sexual Abuse Awareness:
Don't Do This!!!
When someone important is the sexual perpetrator it helps raise the awareness. Pay attention how often it happens. Cheers for MEDIA attention for a few nights. Today it's Sandusky. a coach at a University who worked with children and got away with it for several years. Next, Herman Cain, a political figure who denies it when 4 women have come forward. Remember the stats are one in three girls and one in six boys. Horrible numbers to consider. These victims are devastated by this crime of violence and power. Don't take it lightly. Please Help prevent it.
Don't sweep it under the rug.
Don't change the channels.
Don't pretend it didn't happen.
Get disgusted. Protect your children. Talk about it. Pray for an end to sexual abuse and help for the survivors.
Again, the proceeds from the sale of my book will go to support programs that help the family.
When someone important is the sexual perpetrator it helps raise the awareness. Pay attention how often it happens. Cheers for MEDIA attention for a few nights. Today it's Sandusky. a coach at a University who worked with children and got away with it for several years. Next, Herman Cain, a political figure who denies it when 4 women have come forward. Remember the stats are one in three girls and one in six boys. Horrible numbers to consider. These victims are devastated by this crime of violence and power. Don't take it lightly. Please Help prevent it.
Don't sweep it under the rug.
Don't change the channels.
Don't pretend it didn't happen.
Get disgusted. Protect your children. Talk about it. Pray for an end to sexual abuse and help for the survivors.
Again, the proceeds from the sale of my book will go to support programs that help the family.
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Herman Cain,
Sanduskey,
Sexual perpetrators
Monday, November 7, 2011
The Key to Failure:
There is a key to happiness we must all find But the key to failure is trying to please everyone! |
Writing prompt: I remember when
I had to take the keys away...
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keys,
writing prompt
Sunday, November 6, 2011
A Poem:
Saturday, November 5, 2011
Fall Back Time:
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fall back,
spring forward,
time change
Friday, November 4, 2011
Think First:
Thursday, November 3, 2011
What Depletes Your Soul?:
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soul depletion
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Day of the Dead: All Souls Day
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Feast of All Saints is November 1:
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saints,
spirituality,
St. Teresa
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